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Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More
A groundbreaking new way to understand the mental load—and why it's crushing so many women around the world. This book is a toolkit designed to help you identify and prevent the things that sap your energy, so that you can free up capacity to live the life you truly want. Urgent and provocative, Drained will enable you to stop blaming yourself for never feeling like you are enough and create a richer, less overwhelming existence filled with more meaning and joy.
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MissPerceived

In MissPerceived, Leah tackles pervasive questions and draws upon decades of academic research and evidence to debunk the gender myths that benefit no one - showing that women aren’t better than men at seeing mess or multitasking, and that men aren’t bumbling caregivers who can’t change a diaper or find the keys.
MissPerceived will show how as a society we use these myths to explain gender inequality and maintain the status quo. Leah doesn’t shy away from tough topics and touches on all those messy conversations about life including sex, relationships, work, parenting, and self-help. MissPerceived showcases how we got here, where we need to go next, and how to get there.
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Future Women
The guilt-filled juggle
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The Shaw Report
Invisible, Overlooked & Overloaded: Women at the crossroads of midlife
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Broad Radio On The Go
Morning Broads Tues 19th November, with Michala Banas and Shelley Ware
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Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families
71% of Household Mental Loads Falls to Mums - Here's Why
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Previa Alliance Podcast
Mental Load - What Is It and Why It Impacts Moms More
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Feeling stuck? here’s how to build a daily habit to lighten your mental load.

notice the weight
Pay attention to when your mind feels crowded or scattered — awareness is the first step to change.
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Identify the Drains
Take our mental load quiz to identify what is draining your energy right here and right now.
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Align with Purpose
The Mental Load Audit will help you identify how to strategically align your mental load energy to create lives filled with more purpose, meaning and joy.
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ABC
Understanding the mental load, what it is and how to get it under control
The mental load. It's incessant, gnawing, exhausting, and disproportionately falls to women.
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ScienceDaily
Mothers bear the brunt of the 'mental load,' managing 7 in 10 household tasks
The study, conducted in the US, found that mothers take on seven in ten (71%) of all household mental load tasks.
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World Economic Forum
How can we reduce the 'mental load' placed on mothers by the pandemic?
The COVID pandemic has made the very private issue of the domestic division of labour – the way housework and childcare are divided – a very public issue.
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The Conversation
Earning more doesn’t lighten mothers’ mental loads – they do more regardless
You work a full day, drive the kids to various after school activities, make a mad dash to the supermarket to pick up something for dinner, check emails … and then remember you need a gift for Aunty June’s birthday tomorrow.
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Forbes
Women carry 71% of a household’s ‘mental load’ and it can limit their participation in the workforce, new research finds
The holiday season can be full of joy, reflection, and quality time—and, for women, an even more overwhelming share of the mental load, the invisible work that goes into managing a household and family.
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BBC
The hidden load: How 'thinking of everything' holds mums back
When it comes to household responsibilities, women perform far more cognitive and emotional labour than men. Why is this, and is there anything we can do about it?
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